This page is taken directly from the info letter we used to send out for the NYC gatherings once we'd gotten back all the RSVPs. Local circumstances may dictate a few minor changes, but we'll have those ironed out well in advance.
WHAT TO EXPECT
When you arrive, you'll be greeted at the door by one or more of the guys in the group, depending on who's hanging out where at the moment. If we're gathering in a private house instead of a hotel room, you'll then be escorted into the living room, introduced to those already present and invited to enjoy some of the refreshments available. Although it's not required, it's usually considered appropriate to bring along something in the beverage department (soda, juice, beer, etc.), to keep the refreshment pantry stocked for the group to enjoy, and such consideration is gratefully appreciated.
It's OK to be nervous! The "chemistry" of each group is different, and the number of newcomers invited to a given session virtually guarantees that some will be more reticent than others. Use the time after your arrival to get settled in and comfortable, enjoy a beverage and relax. Remember that the other attendees are likely to be equally "on edge," and act accordingly. One excellent ice-breaker is to strike up a conversation with "Gee, I'm nervous - how about you?"
If you're feeling bold, it's perfectly acceptable to undress down to whatever level you
feel appropriate - bags will be provided for clothing and personal possessions.
Experience has shown that it's a good idea to keep at least a pair of socks on, but beyond
that, it's your call. Newcomers greeted by a roomful of men in bulging briefs and
jockstraps usually find themselves
warming up in no time ... :)
If you're REALLY feeling bold, it's also perfectly acceptable to engage in light sexual behavior (such as groping, rubbing, jerking, etc.), before the session actually begins, but experience has shown that it's best not to get too carried away; the disruption of newcomers arriving tends to be distracting.
As other members are arriving, it's helpful to keep in mind that not every person is automatically going to appeal to every other person - some have very specific "types" and others are more catholic in their tastes. Don't worry if someone doesn't appeal to you; someone else undoubtedly will.
At the agreed-upon time, the doors will be locked, and the session will be considered to have begun. You may undress fully or not, as you wish and as circumstances dictate. Traditionally, one of the members stays fully dressed in order to handle unexpected situations (such as the arrival of a latecomer, or a delivery or ???), for which being in deshabille would be inappropriate, and is called the Dressed Guy (more on him later).
As the action gets underway, the standard etiquette for get-togethers of this type comes into play: if it feels good, do it - as long as it doesn't hurt another. Condom use is at the discretion of each member, but you should *never* ejaculate in another's mouth without express permission. It's perfectly acceptable to take breaks from the action to get a drink or use the toilet or have a cigarette, but men who've disappeared for too long are liable to have search parties sent after them.
As the action progresses, combinations of various size and complexity form, break up and reform. This is natural; it *is* a group scene, after all. If you suddenly find yourself alone without a mouth on your dick or a dick in your mouth, feel free to pursue whatever looks attractive at the moment.
As the action winds down, towels will be provided for cleaning up. In a perfect group, everyone gets off at the same time, recuperates at the same time, gets re-assembled at the same time (you get the idea), but in reality, this happens but rarely. It's usually considered rude to "cum and go" substantially before the majority has, but the Dressed Guy is there to assist quick-triggers in their departure. Sometimes a second or even a third round of action gets going!
As the session ends, most guys get re-dressed and depart, but those who enjoy the camaraderie are welcome to stay later and "hang out." Sometimes we order in pizza, or just sit around talking about computers or whatnot; in general, the "afterwards" is relaxed, low-key and friendly.